To Gain Control

Control: Oh, how we humans desire it! Crave it!

I want this… and so it should happen. Just like that! How nice…

We wish to control others, to control our future, to control the ideas that flicker in this world. We strive to gain control. We work ourselves sick for it.

Hold on.

Slow yourself.

To gain control? Who told you control was something to gain? How is it you have come to believe something so ridiculous? Control: you have it or you don’t. Isn’t it?

If you don't see this, reflect some more. It is in your power to change something, or it is not. What is there to gain?

There can be no worry. If it is outside of your control, let it happen. What else can you do? If it is inside your control, exercise your control to achieve what you would like.

​To discover precisely what is in your control and what is outside of it, takes only awareness. Awareness. Now, here is something worth gaining!

Be aware of the information you have, the assumptions you bear, the way you react to your surroundings, and you will begin to understand yourself. Only as you begin to understand yourself can you begin to understand what it is that you control, and what it is that is outside of your control.

I can tell you this: at the very root of the vast majority of stresses and sufferings are attempts to control what cannot be controlled, and a fear to control those things that can be.

And why? Why, why, why?

Because we want to control “our” things, we want to have influence where “we” want it. Absurd! You either have control or you do not! It is not up to you! How did you get it so wrong!

If you look close, what we really want is control over our control! Give it up! Stop meddling!  Control only what you can, for what else is there to do?

Here it is: in giving up your control, there is control. In trying to control, there is lack of control. Do you believe me? It’s remarkable to see.

There can be no mistake but in lack of awareness. It is awareness you want. Understand the limits of your control, and you will not worry.

You will have all you need. The rest will take care of itself.

​Tell me, how else can it be?
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